It took a lot of struggle, determination, patience, smart work as well as money to get an admission in US. I don't know about others but to me it is one of the best things which has happened to me in life. Not because I have secured a place in the PhD program in USA but because perhaps this is the first and the only thing for which I fought alone and this time initially my parents were also not with me. They were apprehensive of the fact that it will take so much money to study in US since they did not know that research/teaching assistantships exist. Also for them it was too much to leave me for at least 5 years alone in US which is a different country altogether. By nature they are very possessive and protective which is a good thing but too much possessiveness is suffocating sometimes. Every individual needs time, space, freedom to grow up and learn through different experiences which may be good or bad at times. I also needed to grow up, I still need to grow up and this is certainly not possible if I am again in their shelter. I have got world's best parents but I think as an individual I need freedom, time and space to learn different things in life.
It took almost one year to convince my parents to finance the entire application process, the cost of which came around as Rs. 70,000 approx. In the mean time there were situations when they said straightaway that they cannot finance my application process and they asked me to do job and then apply on my own money. But that would have taken 1-2 years more and I would not have been able to finish my PhD soon. Now at least I have a hope that I can finish it in 4-5 years and till the time I am 30 years old, I will have a job in academia. I also want to settle down, get married, have a family after my PhD. This is something which I have planned and I want to do it in this manner. Marriage is surely something which I want to do after my PhD as I will become independent and have an identity of myself, so that the person with whom I get married to respects me for who and what I am.I should not be in any respect inferior to that person.
Life after admission is too good. People respect me, parents and relatives are proud of me. Of course now I have got much more responsibilities and expectations to fulfill but I really love this time.
It took almost one year to convince my parents to finance the entire application process, the cost of which came around as Rs. 70,000 approx. In the mean time there were situations when they said straightaway that they cannot finance my application process and they asked me to do job and then apply on my own money. But that would have taken 1-2 years more and I would not have been able to finish my PhD soon. Now at least I have a hope that I can finish it in 4-5 years and till the time I am 30 years old, I will have a job in academia. I also want to settle down, get married, have a family after my PhD. This is something which I have planned and I want to do it in this manner. Marriage is surely something which I want to do after my PhD as I will become independent and have an identity of myself, so that the person with whom I get married to respects me for who and what I am.I should not be in any respect inferior to that person.
Life after admission is too good. People respect me, parents and relatives are proud of me. Of course now I have got much more responsibilities and expectations to fulfill but I really love this time.
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